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Spiritual Heads of the House

Originally posted on November 19, 2007

My marriage was transformed when I grabbed hold of a spiritual principle. That principle is found in 1 Cor. 11:3.

“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” ( 1 Cor 11:3KJV)

I had theologically understood it all along, but it was in the practical application that I missed it. Theologically I understood why Adam was cursed when it was Eve who disobeyed in partaking of the fruit. Adam had the responsibility to “keep the garden” (Gen. 2:15). That meant that he was to guard and protect that garden. The garden, included his wife, Eve. So when Adam did not stop Eve, he abdicated his responsibility. Paul tells us:

“And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.” (1 Tim 2:14 KJV)

In other words, Adam knew what was going on, yet did not stop her.

Because of the influence of the institutional church, all our English translations of the Bible are written with a hierarchical structure, that does not exist in the Kingdom of God. There is order and hierarchy, don’t misunderstand me, but it is not the way we think. The system in the church is from the world, not God. The hierarchy of the world in the church is like a pyramid. The top of the pyramid is God. Beneath God is the clergy. Beneath the clergy are the lay ministers. Beneath the lay ministers are the congregation.

This is how 1 Cor. 11:3 is usually viewed: God at the top. Christ beneath God. Man beneath Christ and Woman beneath Man. This is incorrect.

The hierarchy of God is from the ground up, the least shall be the greatest

The true hierarchy of God is like a tree. At the bottom of the roots is God who is the source and life of everything. The trunk is Christ who upholds everything. The branches are Men drawing life from the roots through the trunk. And the beautiful flowers are the Women who are held up by the Men who are the branches. And children are the fruit that comes from the flowers.

So the spiritual truth that I realized is that when I drew upon Christ to love my wife, I did nothing to change her, and everything to support her. As I honored her, and respected her, she, on her own, honored me and respected me.

The Simple Church is the family. Husbands are the priesthood towards their wives and children. As Peter said of the elders in the church,

1 Pet 5:1-3

1 The elders which are among you I exhort, who am also an elder, and a witness of the sufferings of Christ, and also a partaker of the glory that shall be revealed:

2 Feed the flock of God which is among you, taking the oversight thereof, not by constraint, but willingly; not for filthy lucre, but of a ready mind;

3 Neither as being lords over God’s heritage, but being ensamples to the flock. (KJV)

As husbands we do not lord over our wives anything. We live as Christ did: servants to our families, laying our lives down. Being the bottom supporting the top. As I made the conscious choice to love her in her love language, and to serve her, she grew to love me deeper.

So I encourage all men in the body, be as Christ towards your families. If you are single, embarking on a new relationship, respect and honor your girl friends. If you are married and had a bad marriage, you can repent your behavior (I did) and the Spirit through your repentance will transform your marriage. If your marriage is strong, men continue to lay your lives down for your wives and children.

The kingdom is ruled by example from the bottom up, not the top down.

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