It grieves me to see how the Church has hardened its heart to the root of our societies problems. They complain about the obligatory homosexuals in every show who are portrayed as the wise counsellors of the show. I understand their complaint, for this grieves me as well. But we have become so hardened to the equal perversions of fornicators outside of marriage and the many characters who profess multiple marriages in these same shows. We have forgotten that Jesus said that he who marries another, apart from fornication, commits adultery (Matt. 19:19). We accept without question the serial polygamy of multiple marriages and unwed cohabitation that produces scores of bastards into our society. No one considers that the proliferation of lesbians and homosexuals trying to raise children has its root in divorce.
Obviously there are problems that precede divorce which cause divorces. What deeply grieves me is the sky-rocketing divorce rate amongst Christians and their reasons for divorce. I have known of some divorces that are merely because they are not getting along, which is no reason for divorce. As one octogenarian said, “We stayed married 50 years because in our generation you did not throw things away but you fixed them.”. It is appalling to me that so many couples do not take their vows seriously. Have they not read Ecclesiastes?
4 When you vow a vow to God, defer not to pay it; for he has no pleasure in fools: pay that which you have vowed. 5 Better is it that you should not vow, than that you should vow and not pay. (Ecc. 5:4 & 5).
To discard a marriage merely because you are unhappy is to hold God in very little esteem. Those who take God seriously understand that we are to be like Him as people who keep our words, or don’t make promises in the first place.
More shocking and disturbing to me is the number of divorces caused by infidelity and adultery by believers. Most of the affairs are by the husbands, but some have been by the wives. The heart of discipleship is to control our thought lives. Jesus said that if we look upon a woman with lust in our hearts, we have already committed adultery in our hearts (Matt. 5:28). Lust is more than just having the thoughts pass through your mind, it is dwelling on those thoughts. Disciples have thoughts pass through their mind, but they monitor their thoughts and cast those thoughts out of their minds when they catch them (2 Cor. 10:5 & 6).
But it gets even more disturbing. I know of two families who have had the same problems. In one family, the husband was a translator for Wycliff. This is not an aspersion against Wycliff, they are a wonderful organization that translatesthe Bible in all known languages of the world. Instead, I mention the organization to show how much the husband has to read the Bible, which one would think would be a deterrent to immorality. This man had a beautiful teen age daughter that he committed incest with. As far as I know they have not divorced because the wife wants to keep up the good religious appearance, but the daughter has been devastated.
In the other family that I know of the husband maintained a bigamous relationship with his wife , 2 children and 3 adopted children with a secret 16 year relationship with a girlfriend who has born him 3 other children. This husband also had incest with one of his adopted daughters. Both men call themselves Christians, and they are Christians of the Evangelical stream.
I am a child of divorce, although my parents had made no pretence of being Christians. They professed themselves to be atheists. I became a disciple of Christ when I was 32, so I had no Christian upbringing or cultural background. I’ve seen the aftermath of divorce and its consequences on the children. God hates all manner of perversions: fornication, adultery, homosexuality, bestiality, and so on, but only on the topic of divorce does He make the point blank statement: I hate divorce (Mal. 2:16 God’s Word, English Revised Version and Good News Bible). While the damage caused by infidelity or incest is destructive, divorce compounds that damage upon the children who grow as even more dysfunctional adults.
In my family my eldest brother has been married five times, my next 2 brothers three times, my sister two times, and my other sister once whose husband had deserted her. I alone am a Christian in my family and have remained faithful to my one wife (although two of my siblings are now professing Christ, one as a New Ager and the other as a choice alcoholic anonymous). One of my siblings spent 3 years in the state penitentiary.
Is there any wonder why so many children who grow up in Christian homes walk away from the faith when they become adults? Where is the shame and godly sorrow in the body of Christ for these believers who have destroyed their families and children? Instead of sorrow we see ministries devoted to helping them remarry into blended families. Blended families are wrought with all kinds of problems, as well. Doesn’t anyone take the Bible seriously in the Church leadership? Jesus said if you remarry (except for the cause of fornication) you commit adultery, and if you marry someone who has been divorced you commit adultery (Matt. 19:19). Paul told us if your spouse leaves you, you should not remarry but remain single or make every effort to be reconciled (1 Cor. 7:11, 27).
I dislike the obligatory homosexuals on every television show. And I see the damage done by the homosexual agenda that is promoted by both the homosexuals and the elite cabal that wants to destroy families to establish global government. But I think too many Christians are upset with a symptom while blind to the root of the problem: broken homes. We make our choices. There is no excuse for the Church. It is the disregard for the holiness of God and His call for us to be holy as He is holy (1 Pet. 1:15). We are the ones who are to purify ourselves if we have this hope in us (1 John 3:3).
The Church needs to get back on track. We are to be disciples before we can make disciples. Instead, we are salt that has lost its savour and are being trampled upon by the lost since they see no reason to follow Christ. Worse, our very own children are rejecting Christ because they don’t see us as disciples. Instead they see selfishness culminating in divorce.